Thread of Connection
For children, separation anxiety is very common. It can crop up at a predictable age, after a traumatic event, a change of schools, the start of something new or even at bedtime, before saying goodnight for the night.
In all these cases, and in life in general, teach your kiddos about the invisible thread between you and them. This is what connects you, no matter how far apart you are.
Children are pathologically present and see what’s in front of them. When you’re not there, they may miss you, worry about being apart or even become fearful about the distance. All of this is okay, and normal.
Explain to them this idea - that you are with them always. That even if they cannot see or touch you, you’re always parenting them and with them in their heart. Help them to imagine a thread that connects your heart to theirs, no matter where you both may be.
Small ideas to help them remember about the thread of connection and practice trusting it:
-Draw matching hearts on both your hand and theirs and let them know they can press on the heart if they miss you.
-Let them take something small with them that smells like you or a stuffy you hug that they can hug.
-Have them put a little rubbing rock in their pocket that can serve as a reminder of your sturdiness.
-Come up with a mantra for them to say to themselves to remember you are always with them.
-Make matching bracelets you both can wear and hold if you miss each other.
-Give them a notebook they can write in if they’re feeling lonely.
